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🕑 Added 2021-10-05 23:35:53 +0000 UTC Let’s talk about hair. It means something that is missed in society. Kidsget it and some women understand it as well and I think that we all need to start paying attention to what it means about a home and a relationship and what is going on behind the scenes. Because people like to lie about abuse and the victims send out these silent screams for help and hair is one of them. We all think and know that long hair is very pretty. It just is. So then why short hair? Women get mocked for it. We do. “You look like a boy” or “what’s up lesbian?” When you have short hair as a woman you have to do so and take a lot of belittling and shaming and it is constant. But we do not care. We do it for a reason and we do not even realize it. It is subconscious and most of us started when we were little. That was when we first cut off our hair. We begged for it: Short hair. When you are little you do not care what you look like. All you want is relief from the pain. I remember it. Abusers use your hair to control you and to hurt you. Over time you just want to get rid of it. They will yank it when you walk by if they do not like you just for fun when no one is watching. They will pull it extra hard when they are combing it or fixing it and tell you not to react or they will yank it and pull it harder as a punishment. As a 𝕔𝕙𝕚𝕝𝕕 you think that a great way to get out of this torchure is to CUT IT ALL OFF and then later when you get into an abuse relationship at the first signs of it you run right to the salon and you say “cut my hair” and then you get home and look in the mirror and cry because you do not know why you did it. It makes no sense at the time. All you know is that you need to get rid of your hair. Hair is dangerous. The first thing I did when I got thrown out of my relationship and got rescued by someone I could tell was safe was grow my hair just like I did the last time I got rescued by someone safe. Its is a subconscious thing. R@)($^@ use your hair to drag you off and hold you down. I was told there was no money for haircuts. Well fuck that. Mama learned to cut her own hair. The second it got past my chin the scissors came out and off it went. I was not taking any chances. Start to look around you. Long hair is a luxury. ***many*** 𝕔𝕙𝕚𝕝𝕕ren that ask for their hair to be chopped off do so for a reason. They are tired of their hair being used to covertly abuse them and this is their way of putting their foot down by putting down the comb and the hair ties that bind. Its the 𝕔𝕙𝕚𝕝𝕕 with the overbearing parent that signs them up for all the activities and acts perfect and the 𝕔𝕙𝕚𝕝𝕕 that speaks their mind. THAT 𝕔𝕙𝕚𝕝𝕕. Not the parent that is just frazzled and has the girl with the bob and says “yeah I am tired of all the hair styling and stuff so I thought just make it easy. I feel bad she misses it but it is too much work.” Not that parent. The one that says it is the 𝕔𝕙𝕚𝕝𝕕’s idea. That indicates the abuser parent. Parents that sign their kidsup for all the activities are doing that so that they do not have to be around theirkids. Dance is a great one. It is so pointless and these parents can never see their kidsever and then have a literal dancing monkey to show off later. Real loving parents will sign kidsup for activities that the parents can join in on. My mother did that. She put us in 4-H and she went with us and did all the project along with us. My friend K***** does the same thing with her daughter. They rope together and work on the ranch and enjoy the same activities and she does not sign herkid up for things that she is not doing. She goes with her and they have these things that they do together. She is passing on her hobbies to herchild, not making her do things with other people she can brag about and also get time away from her ownkid. It is not just the short hair that we need to look out for with the 𝕔𝕙𝕚𝕝𝕕ren and the women but these other signs as well. It all adds up and we have to look at the big picture and not just what some people are saying when we judge. My sister ran her mouth off for years and told me what a horrible mother my friend K***** was and how disgusting her live-in boyfriend was and K**** told me that they were going to get married. Then all the sudden D*****and K***** break up and my sister gets really happy and starts to move in on K****’s time and and guess what? The same thing happens to me!! Almost exactly. People start to say that I am a bad mother. My husband gets wind that I am going to dump him so he dumps me first. Then L***** kills herself. (My sister’s BFF) The common denominator is my sister in both me and K*****’s lives and me and her are very sweet and yet we never can seem to get ahead, romantically. Why is this? I like her and I also like my sister and my sister has always told me over and over what a total piece of shit K***** is and to me, that has never added up. In fact, I have gone to see K***** on my own for years and she seems a lot like me. I love her. I do not understand the things that my sister says about her. I also liked this D***** guy. He seemed a lot like me as well. But my sister hated him. I’m starting to wonder what horrible shitty things my sister has always been saying about me all these years behind my back, but I think that all I need to do is just think back on all the things that she has ever said about K***** and there I have my answers. When I hang out with K***** on my own she is adorable and bubbly and happy and she shares her feelings and we have the best times. When we are with my sister, K***** is grumpy and frumpy and chain smokes and complains and just wants to get the fuck out of there. Then later my sister tells anyone who will listen THAT VERSION OF K***** as the version of her “best frined” that my bitch sister brings out in people which lol must be the same version she brings out in me that I have spent a fucking life time trying to control and overcome. My sister is nasty as hell and mean as shit and it takes all your strength to ignore it. 🤣🤣🤣 It is actually kind of funny. She is obsessed with Hitler and you go over there and she wants to whip out her infra red award winning shots of concentration camps. Like, um ok no thanks, I came over to not cry over the genocide today. But she is happy about it. To her it is her hobby: death. She likes slavery too. If she isn’t being mean then she isn’t happy. Just like my father. It is like to them cruelty is funny. They see that as humorous. They really do. Getting one over on someone stupider than them. Look at Adorabella, she is so stupid, we took her kids. Look at Karen she is so dumb, I got all dads money. Look at mom, she is so dumb, I will get her money too. Look at K*****, I will get her kid to love me more. Look at D*****, he is so stupid, I will get his kids too. Look at everyone they are all dumber than me. ⬆️This is how abusers think. ⬆️ It is a sickness with some people when they really are so dumb that they think that the way that they can “show” everyone in the end is to kill them. Who’s smarter now? You are dead, poor or in jailand me, who you all called stupid and laughed at? I broke up all your marriages and stole all your inheritances and your kidsall play at my house and hate you. My sister cut her hair one time and the shortest of all of us and after that I guess she decided to never do that again. Let other people cut their hair and she would give them the reason.
