So I have been asked several times how we got started in the..
🕑 Added 2023-04-28 07:01:31 +0000 UTC
So I have been asked several times how we got started in the Lifestyle as Swngers, so here is the story.
Hubby, half jokingly, asked for a threesome (FMF) every year for his birthday since we got married. Every year I would roll my eyes and say maybe next year. In 2019 when he asked I said with a smirk, “Sure, but if we do a threesome with a girl for you we also have to do another one with a male for me.” I said this thinking he would say thanks but no thanks with a male involved. Well, Hubby said, “Sure, it's only fair”. Then we talked about it. How would we find someone? Would this have any effect on our marriage? I told him that I was not interested in much contact with a woman, I was not Bi, but that journey is a different story.
We spent about 7 months looking for a solo, available woman with no luck. Then one Friday night in October 2019, we were hanging out having adult beverages with some friends/neighbors on our deck. As people started wandering off to home, the last person left wanted to talk about her breaking off her engagement because she had found out that her fiance had been cheating on her. She looked at me and said that she was over men, she was switching teams and was going to be a lesbian and looked at me. When she said that, I looked at hubby, he looked at me, we looked at her and I asked if she had ever done anything like that. She said no but had always been curious about women. I asked her if she wanted to try a threesome, we had a drink, started some light touching and went inside for a very fun evening.
So after that, it was time to find a solo male.It was a very similar situation almost one month later, we were having a small party on our back deck, things were winding down, people were wandering off and the last person there was a friend of a friend said he had called an Uber and asked if were ok to hang out a bit longer until it got there. The three of us were talking a bit more and he thanked us for letting him come hang out, and that his divorce was finalized that day and he was going out the next night because he had not had sex in 18 months and was going to make a play at the next pretty girl to smile at him. I looked at hubby, he looked at me, nodded and I gave the male a big smile and asked if he was interested, and that I was hoping to try a threesome with 2 men. We were all naked in about 60 seconds.
So after the 2 threesomes we talked. What we liked and didn't like about them and whether we should continue. I enjoyed the FMF, it was fun, hubby loved it. I am unsure how to describe exactly how I felt during the MFM, I felt desired, sexual and alive like never before. How had I/we not considered this before? We agreed that it was fun and that we should pursue whatever this was. We started looking online for information and discovered the Lifestyle. There is a whole community of like minded individuals out there.
If you enjoyed this, please let me know. I can post a bit more about our Lifestyle journey.
